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You’ve heard it said many times – the tragedy
is not in falling down but in not getting up. We all fall, we all misspeak, we
all eat too much or the ‘wrong foods’. So what? The joy is the journey, not the
destination. Enjoy the trip and every now and then don’t take a map or use your
GPS.
And not every effort we make has to accomplish
something. There is value in noticing the butterfly on the hibiscus, or
watching the hummingbird delight in the delicious nectar of salvia. Supporting
an employee who is a first time mother endears you to her in a way that no
performance review ever can.
Perfectionism can simply be a rationale for
not trying and not being engaged. Many of the leaders I work with say some of
their most fulfilling times in their life was ‘getting there’. They speak with
delight of having little money in their pocket but a huge dream in their heart
that propelled them to achieve great things.
How many of us do that? Travel the same way to
work, eat at the same restaurants, lead in the same ways we led 10 years ago.
It is true that nothing ventured, nothing gained.
We’ve all heard ‘mile by mile it takes a
while; inch by inch it’s a cinch’. We have such an incessant need for speed
that we miss the power and the grace of simply moving forward at a reasonable
pace. Research consistently shows that measured progress is better than rapid
change with little or no thought.
Playing it Safe is Playing Small
Many people never start their own business, go
for that promotion, write that book, or accomplish whatever their dream is
because of their fear of failure or ridicule. So what if you don’t get it right
the first time? Most successful CEOs and famous business people failed numerous
times before they tasted success. I once heard Ted Turner had 17 failed
businesses before his first successful one! Bill Gates and Steve Jobs never
finished college. Successful baseball players are successful at getting on base
only 30% of the time. Can you imagine failing 70% of the time in your job or
life?
There is Honor in Effort
Going away from the prison, as the artist did
(by killing himself), is what he could have chosen to do when he was young.
Instead, he chose a titanic struggle, as he describes it, “being tormented by
the throes of despair,…. growing enfeebled by horror in the face of unsolved
mysteries,…. striving to subject the world to my mind and my will”. Choosing
the former and simply going away from the prison is so much easier and so much
more attractive in comparison with the latter that even the man who has
undertaken the titanic struggle and even developed a unique philosophy can’t
help reconsidering his choice after so many years and so much experience. He
even “prepared a noose made of my towel for the purpose of strangling
myself” Gafas de sol Ray Ban. At the last moment, however, he
is held back by a simple monologue, Where am I going? I am going to death. But
what is death? I do not know.
The artist K., however, submitted to death,
choosing the easier way. It may seem strange that he committed suicide shortly
after he was persuaded by the man of the necessity to adjust himself to the
conditions of the prison, that is, to submit. The long and hard struggle that
he would have to go through as the man has done must have been revealed to him.
Choosing to submit to death and not life Fake Ray Bans, he
killed himself.The power, with all its capriciousness Faux
Oakley pas cher, finally leads the man out of prison, which he
describes as “something altogether unexpected”, just as his being thrown into
prison. Although what he finds outside of prison is favorably in contrast with
what he had in prison, it is nevertheless a new life and requires a new
submission.
A life with few failures is typically a pretty
boring and small life. You’ve heard the story about fish being (are fish a
who/person?) placed in an aquarium with a glass in it and they learned to swim
in that space. When the glass was removed they continued to swim in that
smaller space – never realizing there was twice the space if they simply would
free themselves from their self-imposed boundaries.
Persistence is Critical
Certainly there are times that speed is of the
essence and is important. But most of us are caught up in the frenetic,
breakneck speed race against the clock that impedes our progress rather than
accelerates it. Slow down and trust that when you let go there is flow. Put the
oars in the boat and let the stream carry you. Have a safe, well equipped boat,
take what you need for the trip – and enjoy the ride downstream.
I think we all need to get over ourselves and
the desire, need, and pursuit of perfection. It’s really just a cop-out and a
reason to not move or an excuse for not ‘getting it right’. If we leave no room
for spontaneity, creativity, and fluidity in our lives, we can lead pretty
boring lives. The pursuit of perfection often leaves us feeling depleted and
deflated. It’s just a never ending cycle of ‘raising the bar’.
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